Cat Spring, Texas

The latest generation of perimenopausal women is not playing . Have you heard of the “We Do not Care Club” started by a hilarious perimenopausal woman on Facebook named Melani? She’s also on all the other platforms.

https://www.tiktok.com/@justbeingmelani/video/7517995327199218999

She has struck a nerve with a lot of women her age in her funny reels about things she no longer cares about since entering perimenopause. She’s become famous enough to be featured on a few TV programs.

Well, I may not be as cute and funny as her , but I am someone who has survived and moved past that stage into the next stage, where I do care, but about different things. It wasn’t easy. At times, I didn’t know if my marriage would survive my moods. But it did! And it’s better than ever.

I thought I’d share a few tips. This is just off the top of my head. I’m sure I’ll think of more as soon as I publish this!

Note: I’m not a doctor.

• Natural progesterone cream. This helps so much with many of the unpleasant symptoms caused by changing hormones. Any brand will work, but I recommend Emerita because it doesn’t have other ingredients.
• Sleep mask or headband with earphones. If you’re having trouble sleeping, block out the light. Sleep deprivation can cause depression and anger. (Duh!)
• Sleep podcasts such as White Noise, sermons, acoustic music, meditation, or whatever helps your brain relax and drift off.
• https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relaxing-white-noise/id1525750966?i=1000722346185
• Ashwaganda. Helps when you’re tired and scatter brained.
• GABA and L-theanine gummies. To calm anxiety .
• B-12 gummies. Energy
• Black cohosh. Hot flashes
• Evening primrose oil. Irritability and anxiety
• Magnesium. Muscle tightness, constipation, depression
• Walking or running , or any cardio exercise. Plus weights. Burn off bad moods, sense of accomplishment, social interaction, “me” time. Also good for your mental and physical health.
• Go to church, Bible study or some kind of spiritual group study activity. Spiritual growth and is very healing.
• Take a self-inventory. Work on your own personal development, not other people’s. These hormone changes can either make you better or worse. Your husband is not trying to make you mad.
• Get therapy. Even though it’s funny and sometimes freeing, saying “I don’t care about that.” is not always the best response. Don’t let unbalanced hormones make your life decisions. If you’re really struggling, due to past trauma or whatever, get help! Pick someone who won’t tell you to throw away your support system and salvageable relationships. Look for new and better communication and confidence in yourself, not resentment towards others.

This is just a small sample of my herbal and supplement cabinet. Now is the time to experiment! You can use whatever brand you like .